This time of year is very hard for a lot of people. It’s a time of getting together with friends and family and for honoring those who have passed. Remembering people you love who are no longer with you is difficult enough, but couple that with holiday stress, financial worries, and day-to-day stressors, and you have a recipe for disaster. People are angry, grouchy grouchy, stressed out, and generally quite unpleasant this time of year. This doesn’t mean that we need to be any less humane to people during this time of year.
“Be kind to one another,” it’s a phrase that has been used in movies, songs, talk shows, then many other forms of communication. Personally, I think this should replace the golden rule. It means the same thing: Treat others like you want to be treated, but it cuts it down to its simplest form. I have large gaps in my memory from my childhood and growing up. I have tried and succeeded in forgetting more experiences than most people have in their lifetimes. I forgotten all but parts and pieces of a minimum of 6 to 12 years. Most of the things that I have forgotten come back to me and blinding clarity usually when I least expect it or least want it.
While I have forgotten much of the bad parts of my life, I’ve never forgotten the kindness. Sometimes, one person’s kindness is all that we have to cling to in the storms of our lives. I have had the privilege of knowing people who were genuinely kind and caring, people who wanted to help. There were multiple times in my life that, because I didn’t understand why somebody would have even talked to a nobody like me, I have doubted their words, doubted their sincerity, didn’t believe I was worth the praise, even derided their words or actions, But I Have Never Forgotten.
For my New Year’s resolution, I am going to try to not only be grateful for the kindnesses I have been shown, but also reach out to those people who have shown me kindness in the past and continue to show me kindness today and thank them.
Were it not for kindnesses shown, I am 100% certain that I would not be alive. While I cannot thank everybody, as some have passed and some are unreachable, I will try to be grateful and loving and pass that kindness on.